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Guy Crazy: Super Bowl XLVII
All items are from Top Man, Mr. Porter, Diesel and Luis Avia Roma
Guy Crazy: Burberry Metallic Tee
Yes! give me a pop of color and a little shine and I am on bored. Hell, I really just need one of those to be on bored. I am loving Burberry Prorsum's metallic striped tee shirt. Not for the faint of heart, it is definitely for the guy that wants to be seen. The shirt is enough so keep the rest of the look simple. Pair it with black jeans to really make the shirt pop and go for clean sneakers or a black boot. What do you think of the bold, futuristic look of the Burberry tee?
Available at Mr. Porter $350.00
F.R.I.E.N.D.S
So I am not going to lie...I and am sure plenty of other people yawn and roll their eyes when someone blogs about their "journey" or things of that nature. However it wasn't until I started writing about my personal experiences that I realized how cathartic it could be. I had a moment today when I just thought about how lucky I am. I thought about the people in my life, how I met them and how I will never forget them. My mother once told me "some people are meant to be in your life for a minute and some people are meant to be in your life for a lifetime but each one has an impact no matter how long they are there" This is something I will never forget. The next twelve people I talk about are people I have known for mere months or over a decade but I hope they will all be in my life for a lifetime. They have all contributed to the person I am right now at this very moment writing this piece, which might sound self serving but...to be frank I don't care.
Here it goes...in no particular order BTW you caddy bitches =D
Matty Stanz
I have known Matty (the M in S&M) for about two years but it really wasn't till last January that we really bonded and found our footing. Since then we have been virtually inseparable. People tend to hate us together and roll their eyes when we refer to each other as Tia and Tamara Mowery, but we really are like sisters. We fight and love just as hard as any two girls bonded by blood lol Many people see us out or see us having fun but don't really know the other side of our friendship. We constantly talk about love, our goals, our hopes and dreams, boys, family...life and those are the moments I really cherish (besides the drunken dancing on the stairs at The Ritz of course) Matty has taught me things that he probably isn't even aware of. He taught me to believe in fate and that sometimes things really are just meant to happen. I cant tell you how much this one small notion has given me such comfort over the last few months. It is nice to think that life isn't just a strand of random events a chain of them leading you from one thing to the next. I have to say as weird as it sounds..his belief in love as made me believe again. I am thankful to have him in my life and I am forever thankful for choosing him as a bus ride partner in Atlantic City.
Michael Madrid
Dum..dum.dum...While the name might instill fear in many, Michael is one of the sweetest, smartest, caring and loving people I have known. I give him a hard time because that is just the nature of our friendship. I met Michael over a year ago when he was the general manager of a local gay bar Mix. Off the bat, he was combative, intimidating and rude and as it turned out it was exactly what I needed in a friend. I needed someone to teach me how to stand up for myself and on my own two feet. If you ran into us in public you would think we were mortal enemies the way we spoke to each other, but it was what we did best, just like Jack and Karen from Will & Grace as we so frequently referred to each other as. Out of all the friendships here ours has gone under the biggest transformation. We have both grown and have seen the softer side of Sears. We know where we stand with each other and genuinely love and care about the others well being. There is no way that I could be so assertive and confident if it wasn't for his not so gentle guiding hand. I am grateful for the opportunities that has given me and what he has done for me. I hope that I can do the same for him at some point.
Greg Goes
Aww my little kitty cuore mio. Greg was one of the first people I became close with after breaking up with boyfriend of five years. I was drawn to him immediately because of who he is; plain and simple. If you have ever have had the pleasure of meeting him you know he is one of the sweetest people you will ever meet. I mean it. There isn't a mean bone in his body. Even when he does try, you can almost tell that it pains him to do so. He has never judged me, nothing but love and support. He gave me confidence, something I lacked quite a bit. We have had so many adventures together and really taught me how to be free. Greg doesn't care about what other people think. He is spontaneous and has such a passion for life that is truly inspiring. I have seen his journey over the last couple of years and I am so very proud of him. He truly is fearless and I envy him. Between inside jokes, tank tops, P Town and picnics I don't know what I would do without him.
Greg Kimball
Oh Soup...while my friendship with Greg Kimball hasn't been a long one it certainly has been a fun one. Between long talks on walks home and wild nights out I am lucky to have become fast friends with him. He has given me the gift of saying everything with saying nothing at all. He has taught me how to pick my battles. I swear I would have to talk about everything but he has taught me that sometimes its best to just let things go. He's right. More often then not they figure themselves out. He is beautiful, smart, snarky, caring, witty and talented. The perfect deadly combination!
Bradley Hawks
I could probably leave his whole portion blank because anyone that knows Brad or has heard of Brad has never had and probably never will have a bad thing to say about him. He is the definition of the guy that will give you the shirt off his back. I met Brad in a very interesting way and by interesting I mean four or five times drunk and each time I never remembered him. I will say now that I know him I will never forget him. Brad is one of the most driven, smartest, talented, flawless and witty people I know..I mean Survivor out wit you. He has had a huge impact on me. He makes me want more, make me hold my head a little higher and believe in myself that much more. From building tents, to porch talks, TV time to 3 am bouncing I am always delighted to see him...even if he scaring me upon entrance (payback is coming) I now look forward to Thanksgiving and Christmas that much more because we get to spend it together. A drunken tradition I hold close to my heart and liver. I am lucky to have such a caring and understanding person in my life.
Amy Cerasuolo
This bitch...lol Where do I begin? I met Amy when I was still in a relationship and as soon as I met her I thought who is this girl and how do I bottle her up and keep her for forever. Amy has one of the most dynamic personalities ever. A fire cracker to say the least. Sarcasm is an art form that we both master. Upon our first drunken meeting it was clear we were meant to be bestees. I mean on many occasions she would announce how she wanted to marry me...I don't care if it was to the tune of Bruno Mars in a crowded bar. Verbal contracts are binding in New York. She has a tough exterior but a gentle heart and has shown it so much throughout our friendship. Besides making me look stunning on a monthly basis with my regular haircuts and occasional dye jobs she also makes me feel like a million bucks on the inside. I love our stoop cigarettes where we just laugh and vent. She has this amazing quality where she makes you feel like you are the only person in the room and let me tell you that ain't easy at some gay bar in Hells Kitchen!She has been there for many (and there have been) of my ups and downs, never judging just a constant presence telling me it would all be okay. It has been okay and then some and I am so happy that she is a huge part of my life.
Ron DeRosa
Well, well, well. Where do I begin? I met Ron through Greg a couple of years ago; would you like to know my first reaction? I hate this kid. Upon my second meeting do you want to know my reaction? Who the hell is this kid? Would you like to know my reaction the third time? I fucking love this kid. They do say the third time is the charm. Ron is one of those rare breeds. I swear God broke the mold when they made this one. We became close because we both realized that neither of us were going to take the other ones shit. We call em like we see em. When we first became friends I thought why the hell are we friends. If you were to look at us side by side you would think what do these two have in common? He is a shiny, clean cut, masculine, smart, mature, responsible golden boy and I quite frankly am well a little bit of a messy queen. For whatever reason it just works. I look up to him. He lives his life fearlessly. No regrets. He goes for what he wants and usually gets it. He is one of the most selfless, caring, smart, sophisticated, motivated, hilarious, confident people I know. He has done everything from giving me advice, to helping me lose weight to giving me "kitty" He has done more for me then he will ever know. He kind of helped me put the pieces together in my life; usually by calling out what I am doing wrong. If you want someone to tell you that you are right when you are wrong, then he is not the person to call. If you want someone to listen to you and tell you the truth then keep him on speed dial. He really is like a big brother. He can make fun of me for my sequin frocks but watch out if it is someone else because this puss has claws. We have each others backs, which when you live in New York City you need a quick witted friend coming to your aid sometimes to fight off the nasty gays lol I look forward to what this next year and many more shopping excursions will bring.
Nico Apalla
I met Nick and I thought...this kid is crazy. Done. We are friends. For as crazy and outrageous Nick can be he is also beyond smart and responsible. You would never think when meeting him at 4 am at Posh with his shirt off that the kid is a fucking scientist! Nick, has taught me to not care, to dance like no one is watching...and if they are give em a show. He has also taught me, that if they are watching and have something to say..stand up for yourself. Nick is the kind of guy that will go out with you till 4 am dance up a storm but will be bike riding at 9 am the next morning while you are still peeling your face off the bathroom floor. The great thing about that is the phone call. Even if it wakes me I am so happy to see his face pop up. He a. wants to make sure that you are okay b. wants to recap the night prior and c. wants to know what the next plan is. If you know me at all a and b are like my favorite things to talk about. I wish that I was half as smart as him. When he starts talking about politics, religion, science or anything that isn't on TMZ all I can do is nod my head and remind myself to buy an encyclopedia. His commitment to his work and his body are uncanny and I hope at some point I can get there as well. I love you boo boo!
Marianna Pagelli
It is crazy to think of how long I have known Marianna Pagelli and I don't like doing so often because it makes me feel old. I have known Marianna for over ten years. From kids drinking in bars to adults drinking in bars...I guess it's nice to know some things don't change. Some things do change though. Marianna has been through it all with me. This girl deserves an award. Breakups, makeups, births and deaths she has been there. I cannot believe all that we have been through and as much as I tell people our stories no one will ever know the half...and I like that. I like that we have a history that is all ours. Marianna and I met in high school and I fell in love...well as much as I could as a 16 year old closeted gay man. She hates this story so I will tell it. I had a huge crush on her and everyone knew it. I would go to Hallmark where she worked and hang out, help her whatever as long as I could see her. We would party on the weekends and I could never get the time of day...I think it was because she knew I was a Mo. Naturally this made coming out to her just that much harder. Soon after I turned 18, I decided it was time. She was one of the last people I told. I was terrified. I was nervous that she would never be my friend again, that she would look at me differently.I pulled her into the alleyway next to Galaxy (now MexiQ for all you Astorians) the Greek cafe where we frequented and told her. It was like I said did you know the Pope wore a funny hat? She knew and didn't care. All the fears that I had subsided and out of all the friends that I had all those years ago, she is the only one that is still in my life. I cry as I write about her because she is one of the most amazing people that I have ever been blessed with in my life. She has come to countless family functions, listened to me cry, made me cry from laughing, gone shot for shot, seen every bad tan, every bad hair cut, every mistake, every triumph. She has never judged me. She has always shown me nothing but unconditional love. I miss working with her. I miss her chasing me around the office with scissors, I miss our mid day smoke breaks but I never have to miss her because she is always just a phone call or a quick walk away. Even now, now that she is engaged that hasn't changed. I am so proud of her. She is mature, level headed, gorgeous, smart, talented, loving and just a refreshing person to be around. Though our relationship has changed, I no longer feel guilt about it. Our lives are different now. While we might not see each other every day or every weekend we make time now more then ever to see each other or talk to each other and every time we do we pick up right where we left off. Laughing and going shot for shot. just like when we were sixteen. I love you.
Austin C. Bradley
Austin...hmmm what to say what to say. =) I never thought I could learn so much from someone that I used to consider my little brother. What a difference a year makes. I met Austin through Amy. He was one of my first friends after my break up and embraced me with the biggest of open arms. I used to hate it when he would work at night and the three of us couldn't go to the bar. Time and people change. Austin and I have had a pretty interesting relationship. I think that it is because we are both on paths of self discovery. We have fought and had periods where we didn't speak but we have also forgiven and loved each other in spite of our mistakes. That is what friends do. I have seen that "little bar brother" change so much over the past year and I could not be any prouder. He has taken full control of his life.Dreams aren't just that anymore, they are quickly becoming his reality. If he wants to do something he is most certainly doing it and all the way. Austin is one of the bravest people I know. He is not afraid to put it all out there. I admire that. His mistakes are his and he owns them...but more then that learns from them. He is one of the biggest reasons I can write pieces like these. He has always been there for me. From the smallest things like getting a cord to help me DJ to coming over at 4 am to talk I wont forget the amazing things he has done and continues to do. He is still my favorite person to cuddle. I am lucky to have such a great friend that to travel down these paths with and have to pick each other when we stumble
David Klimkowski
David. Shut the fuck up. lol Just saying his name makes my heart melt a little. I love this boy. There is no other person that can get me to put a pumpkin under my shirt and have me pretend to be pregnant for a half hour and sit there and find it hysterical for the full thirty minutes. I have never been so silly with anyone in my life. That is David. He makes you feel safe and makes it okay to let your guard down. He has one of the biggest hearts I know. He is genuine, sweet, hilarious, handsome, silly and the best person to have a conversation with at 5 am in the bathroom with the water running. What other friend would make you a bed on the bathroom floor because you were sick and then stay just to make sure that you were okay. What other friend would come to Disney World for a family reunion and be excited to wear the matching tee shirts? I never laugh as hard as I do when I am with him. I am so blessed to have such a great friend that I can talk to and open up to but knows when to shut me up with a joke because I am getting too much in my head...again. In the last year I have probably spent 363 out of the 365 days with David and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
Junior
Ah..Pep. The newest addition to my group of friends he has definitely made a huge impression. From nights out to long phone calls I am so grateful that we talked on that awkward walk home from the Yankees game. Such a level, headed, sweet, caring and butch guy! Ugh who knew I would have a friend that liked cars and junk. In the short time I have known him he has taught me to not sell myself short which I constantly do, that every mistake makes for a lesson learned, never to settle and it is always okay to wear sequins. I never have to worry about being myself. I look forward to the upcoming year and to see what happens next.
I just want everyone to know how lucky I am to have these people in my life. My life has been forever changed for the better because of them. If you don't know these people, you should get to know them. If you do know them get closer. I am glad I did.
Love,
Scotty Em
S&M Sale: Men's Diesel Underwear
Now if you know me at all you know that I can be a bit of an underwear snob. I don't know why or where it came from I just am. My favorite brand to wear is Diesel. They are comfortable, bold and fun. So you can imagine my delight when I saw that these and a few other styles were on sale at S Sense for only $18.00 almost 50% off the original price. Get these limited addition briefs while you can and just in time for the weekend where you can really show them off! ;)
Guy Crazy: Markus Lupfer Sweaters
What am I crushing on this week?? Markus Lupfer's amazing merino wool printed sweaters! With it being frigid cold this week in New York my eyes began to turn to cold weather clothing and accessories when I stumbled upon these great options from British designer Markus Lupfer. These sweaters in particular add a touch of color and whimsy to any occasion and will definitely be the hit of any party! Celebs like Madonna, Rihanna, Beyonce, Leighton Meester and Florence Welch are already huge fans of the designer. Check them out at S Sense where they retail for $460.00-$530.00
Ryan Gosling is GQ's Valentine
Every one's favorite male celebrity Ryan Gosling graces the February cover of GQ Australia. The 32 year old heartthrob opens up to the magazine about catching the acting bug early from his uncle who was an Elvis impersonator, his love from knitting and what it feels like to be in the public eye. Look for the issue to hit newsstands at the end of the week. For now check out some of the sexy photos of Gosling below. His new movie Gangster Squad hits theaters this Friday! Will you be watching him and Emma Stone reunite on the silver screen??
S&M Trend Report: Color the Cold!
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Baby it's cold outside...but what if you can't get away?? Why not make it feel that way!? Try mixing some bold bright colors with a bit of a tropical twist to make you feel a little warmer during these icy conditions. I mean sure it's cold outside but we all know how every bar and club can get very sweaty very fast. I am especially loving bright neon yellow this season. So turn up the heat this winter and go bold!
All items are from Polyvore
S&M Must Listen: Emeli Sande
Just when I was almost getting sick of Kelly Clarkson's "Catch My Breath" and Ellie Goulding's "Anything Can Happen" I find my next uplifting, inspirational song of the moment. "Next to Me" is the lead single of Emeli Sande's album Our Version of Events. The album which was released in July is full of amazing tracks like "My Kind of Love" Definitely take a look into this one. I believe she will be everywhere in 2013! Check out the video for "Next to Me" below.
Guy Crazy: Skincare 101
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Well it might come as no surprise that for many guys skincare is the last thing on your list. We buy new clothes for a night out, hit the gym to make our bodies tight but how often do you think about your skincare regimen? I know I never did until recently. At age 27 I am already starting to think about what I will look at 37 and I am none too pleased. Everything from the winters harsh cold to that late night out effect your skin. Here is the run down on the what, how and why of the best skin care products for men right now!
1. Royal Apothic Heroes & Aristocrats Botanical Shave Oil $18.00
The blend of macadamia and jojoba oils buffers and softens your skin and beart to prevent razor burn and ingorn hairs. Rub a few drops into your beard before applying shave cream.
2. Olìe Biologique Huile Radicale 005 Rejuvenating Oil $68.00
To prevent dark circles, puffiness and fine lines use this combination of camellia and rose hip oils by massaging four to five drops into skin after washing.
3. Clarin's Men Line Control Balm $52.00
Smooth out wrinkles on your face and neck by applying the lightweight balm which also tightens sagging skin around the chin.
4.L'Occitane Invograting Shave Gel $16.00
Many shave gels can leave your skin dried out and irritated. This shave gel uses plant based sooting agents which leaves the skin softer and tighter.
5. Kiehl's Facial Fuel Anti -Wrinkle Cream $36.00
This lightweight moisturizer helps skin defend against the signs of aging, notably surface wrinkles and the loss of firmness. Made with Chestnut Extract and Soy, their formula helps skin feel strengthened and more dense so it appears firmer and the look of facial wrinkles and lines is decreased.
6. Dr. Dennis Gross Skin Care Daily Face Peel $28.00
The only peel out there that has 5 Alpha and Beta Hydroxy Acids plus Retinol, Ubiquinone , Resveratrol and a host of antioxidants, vitamins and soothing botanicals. This daily peel should be used in the morning or before bed and will firm skin, smooth the appearance of fine lines, improve skin clarity and eliminate dullness.
7. Kiehl's Facial Fuel Eye De-Puffer $20.00
Formullated with caffeine and herbal extracts this eye stick will eliminate puffiness in an easy to go container perfect for the guy on the go.
8. Ti02 Sunblock SPF 30 $31.00
It is important to make sunscreen part of your daily routine when facing the harsh rays. The titanium dioxide and other advanced ingredients keep your face clean and protected throughout the day without leaving a harsh greasy film.
9. Matte For Men Hydrating Lip Balm $10.00
Don't forget about the lips! Choose one with an SPF15 in it like this one with citrus extract.
10. Urth Scrub $36.00
Sometimes a deep scrub is in order and this one is the best and eliminating blackheads and impurities. Use 2-3 times weekly for this miracle scrub.
Try beauty.com for the best in men's skin care steals and deals!
S&M Sale: Brooke Statement Necklace
S&M Shopping Services
Do you stand looking at your closet everyday not knowing what to wear? Are you in a style rut and don't know how to start fresh? Do you have a big event to attend that you want to look special for? No worries! I am here to help.
It is clear by my closet, this site and my web history that I love to shop. I especially like to shop with and for others. I have helped all too many friends get ready for a night out, important events or just a miniature makeover. We start with an initial consultation consisting of what you currently have, what your lifestyle consists of and how you want your style to evolve. Now, some of you (especially the men) might be a little leery because of my sometimes outlandish style but I can promise you I don't force that upon you. You can ask several others. There's already one of me and that is plenty! I work with who you are and within any budget! Fashion is supposed to be fun and a direct representation of who you are, so take a look in the mirror and see if you like what you see...if not call me!
-Scotty Em
S&M Trend Report: Beautiful Blouses
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Trend Report: Cinched Cutie
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So now that we are a ways in to January, I am sure many of you ladies have worked off that extra holiday weight and are ready to show off a bit. There is no better way to do that the simply cinch it. Belt an existing dress with one of your own or look for current dresses that have ones built in. A belt will define your waist and show off existing curves or create ones. Take a look at the four stunning dresses above for inspiration.
All items are from Polyvore
Guy Crazy: Burberry Prorsum Metallic Wallet
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When paying bills or making spur of the moment purchase why not break out the plastic from a bold, beautiful wallet?! I am in love with the Burberry Prorsum Soft Grainy Metallic Wallet. The Italian made leather wallet has eight card slots and two slots for bills. Available in yellow or turquoise for $495.00 at LuisAviaRoma
Positive Thinking
So this will probably be the hardest piece I have written to date. It is the most honest piece I have written and certainly doesn't depict me in the brightest light. This year is about being honest with myself, others and what I want. My personal journey is out there for people to read, share and judge. If I am going to become the person I want to I have to share all sides of myself...not just the ones that are convenient. While I am not preaching at all, I thought it was important to share my story because I am sure there are thousands of similar stories just like mine.
I woke up last week overwhelmed and anxiety ridden and the first thing that entered my brain was I need to get tested. I didn't know why, I just knew that it was time.
For the most part of 2011, I did not have sex. I was just coming out of a five year relationship and I was too scared to sleep with anyone else. I had never been with anyone in the biblical sense besides him. It wasn't a big deal until I started to realize it was a big deal. I was terrified of having sex with anyone. I was scared of being intimate with someone, scared that I wouldn't be good...just scared. Then something happened. I just threw caution to the wind, like I so often do in my life and followed through. One drunken night I hooked up with some guy off Grindr. It was hot and fun but I wasn't safe. I never used protection with my boyfriend and while I knew I should have with this stranger... I just didn't care. I played it off and kept it a secret from many of my closest friends...because in my mind if you don't tell the truth you don't have to deal with it. Unfortunately while I was dealing with many other emotional issues drinking and having unprotected sex was becoming a trend. I found myself doing it more and more and telling myself that because I was a top that I was less at risk. I found myself hating myself right after, even calling my best friend after crying. However, in the sober light of day I was able to push it to the back of my mind and carry on like nothing ever happened. It wasn't till a long walk home on a hot summer night that my best friend out of the blue just blurted out "You need to stop having unprotected sex" When someone that you respect and love just calls you out like that...sometimes that is all you really need. So I did. I told myself I wouldn't have sex again until I could handle the responsibility of having it. To be quite frank I still haven't. So it has been well over six months and while I think I can handle the responsibility, I just haven't wanted to.
With a new year upon me, I am really trying to be the person that I have always wanted to be, which simply just means someone that has their shit together. So after back tracking and second guessing I woke up on the morning to get tested with such clarity. Whatever the results were I would deal with them. I made the decisions to play unsafe and if I was HIV positive then I would deal with it. I got dressed, put on Kelly Clarkson and marched into the clinic and for the first time in my life I wasn't scared. I waited and watched the awful videos that they play (someone should really talk to them about filming some new segments) and waited some more. Thankfully my results came back HIV negative. After walking out of there calling my friends to share the good news, I couldn't help but think about how silly I had been about all of it. From not wearing a condom to not finding out my status sooner. Why didn't I go find out my status sooner? I was too scared to see that my actions actually have consequences.
Now most people might just go back to doing exactly what they were doing; being carefree and reckless. I mean you would be surprised how much this issue of barebacking actually comes up on sites like Scruff and Grindr. It might feel good at the time, but it doesn't feel good sitting around thinking what did I just do? What do I do now? So although I said I wasn't going to preach, I will say that I will always be safe from here on out, a promise to myself and for myself. Not for friends, not for fear of what people will think but for my well being. I encourage others to do the same and to know your status.
-Scotty Em
Guy Crazy: Adidas Rod Laver High Top
Now we all know I have an affinity for bright colors and for shoes...put them together and you have a deadly combination. With that said I bring to you the Adidas Opening Ceremony Vintage Rod Laver High Top Sneaker. Perfect for any season, they can brighten up your summer brights or provide an added punch to your fall and winter darks. The leather high top arrives in April but you can pre-order it before they sell out at Luisaviaroma for $212.00
Guy Crazy: Think Pink
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Items are from Mr. Porter, Top Man, H&M and Luisaviarora
Guy Crazy: Gym Bound
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Items are from Mr. Porter, Zappos, Top Man and Aerosol
Crazy Colorful Jewels Under $50
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What can be more dreary then the winter? Not much! Make those winter whites and boring black ensembles pop with bold colors! Here are the best of the best. The most colorful and affordable jewels under $50.00 Many under $25.00 Take a look. Which is your favorite?
Items from Charlotte Ruse, ASOS, The Habitat Shop, Max & Chloe and Bauble Bar.
Single. Why So Scary?
Single. It can be one of the most frightening words in the English language. I was twenty years old when i fell in love. it probably was before that but took me some time to realize. I began dating my best friend of ten years and i thought this is it. He knew my past, he knew all my dark secrets and was still there. I could stop running around and bed hopping and breathe. We dated on and off (mostly on) for five years. It was and still is the most intense and passionate relationship i have ever had. After five years, and five hundred fights i came to the conclusion that we just weren't right for each other. A conclusion that my friends and i believe my now ex boyfriend had realized long before myself. It's been almost two years since we've parted ways. In that time we have both completely transformed ourselves. Amid drastic weight loss on both our parts, we have grown up; something we could never do together. I wont speak for him but I will say while we aren't on the best terms I am extremely proud of the man he has become. He is a mature, confident, well rounded, sexy, smart ,caring, goal oriented, passionate and loving man. I wish him nothing but all the happiness in the world. He's had successful relationships since we've broken up and I haven't...except for one...myself. In the last two years I have been on a wild roller coaster. I have drank all day and stayed up all night, been reckless, been nasty; all while thinking I was becoming this amazing individual. I really went from one extreme to another. The shy overweight wallflower, to the loud obnoxious slightly less overweight party animal. In that time I have met some of the most amazing people that have helped me realize my potential, who I am and who I want to be. I am finally comfortable in my own skin. I am happy to say that I have come to a happy medium. Someone that I can be proud of.
With all of that said...the word single doesn't scare me. It excites me. I know who I am,what I want and what I deserve. Dating can be tough. A lot of guys out there are really just like a used car salesman. You think you are buying a 2013 Mercedes but really you re getting a 1970 Pinto.Some guys just tell you what you want to hear or what they believe they mean. Sometimes guys are just idiots. I have learned all of this from the amazing people around me. I look at my friends and their ability to just put themselves out there and be completely vulnerable and I want that. I want that for them and I want that for myself. While the fear or rejection used to consume me, it no longer stands in my way. I look at my friends who will talk to a wall if it talks back, so why not? Why not put yourself out there? You never know what you will get out of it. I have found that even if nothing comes from a conversation with a stranger it was enjoyable just to talk to someone new. Knowing yourself and knowing that you have a great group of people behind you to lean on make it all that much easier. Practice makes perfect and trust me, just when you need it the most there could be a guy right around the corner to excite you and remind you that there are guys everywhere and at any minute you can find the one.
-Scotty
Raid The Red Carpet: Golden Globe Edition
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Now, while you might love these looks and pray for the day you could wear them...you'll have to rob a bank. Even the celebrities don't get to keep them.
So here is a simple to take what you love about each dress and incorporate it in to an every day and budget friendly way.
For Julianne Moore I chose a simple black and white long sleeve shift dress from She Inside Chic, sexy and an easy throw on and all for $30.00!!
For Jessica Alba i chose to go a little edgier while still using that fresh peach color. Her dress had gorgeous ruffled pleating at the train so I chose the one shoulder straps and ruching at the side to get the modern effect from Halston Heritage for $198.00
To achieve Jennifer Lopez' sexy smouldering lace illusion gown go for a knee length long sleeve lace dress like this one from Dorothy Perkins for $44.00
Dying for that cool blue hue Jessica Chastain wore? Check out J Crew's delicate chiffon pleated v neck dress for $250.00
If Kate Hudson was your best dressed nominee opt for this black body con embellished dress from Dorothy Perkins for $69.00
Which look will you be buying??
So here is a simple to take what you love about each dress and incorporate it in to an every day and budget friendly way.
For Julianne Moore I chose a simple black and white long sleeve shift dress from She Inside Chic, sexy and an easy throw on and all for $30.00!!
For Jessica Alba i chose to go a little edgier while still using that fresh peach color. Her dress had gorgeous ruffled pleating at the train so I chose the one shoulder straps and ruching at the side to get the modern effect from Halston Heritage for $198.00
To achieve Jennifer Lopez' sexy smouldering lace illusion gown go for a knee length long sleeve lace dress like this one from Dorothy Perkins for $44.00
Dying for that cool blue hue Jessica Chastain wore? Check out J Crew's delicate chiffon pleated v neck dress for $250.00
If Kate Hudson was your best dressed nominee opt for this black body con embellished dress from Dorothy Perkins for $69.00
Which look will you be buying??
Guy Crazy: Christian Loutoubin Orlato High Top
2013's Must Listen List
I am a music whore. There I said it. I tend to lean toward the more club friendly dance anthems. I mean don't get me wrong I love artists like Sara Bareilles, The Sundays, Dangerous Muse and so many more those are the artists that I listen to for a good nights sleep. Now this post is dedicated to what you should be listening to for a good time, what you should be playing at house parties and what you should recognize at the bars and clubs...at least before Lady Gaga, Britney Spears, Beyonce' and Jennifer Lopez take over when they drop their albums later this year.
Ke$ha - "Warrior"
Everyone's favorite trashy pop star is back and better then ever. Part Britney Spears at the gas station with cheetos, part black version of Nicki Minaj...the girl is fire. While she might not get as much radio play as she did with previous singles; there are gems on this album that you cannot get out of your head and are definitely worth a listen!
Check out:
"Crazy Kids"
"All That Matters" (The Beautiful Life)
"Thinking of You"
Calvin Harris - "18 Months"
Move over David Guetta, 2013 is all about Harris. Calvin Harris has been around for years and has kind of been Guetta's red headed step child. He has had so many amazing singles like Rihanna's "We Found Love" abut has never been given the recognition by mainstream media that he deserves. With his new single "Sweet Nothing" featuring Florence he will be unstoppable. Take a listen to some other amazing tracks off "18 Months"
Check out:
"Sweet Nothing" (feat. Florence)
"I Need Your Love" (feat. Ellie Goulding)
"We'll Be Coming Back" (feat. Example)
Cheryl Cole - "A Million Lights"
The UK sensation has been trying to breakthrough into the American market for quite some time and just can't seem to push past all the already famous pop stars. After a failed stint on X Factor last season she has returned to the girl group Girls Aloud. I believe being back with them while simultaneously promoting her solo venture she can break through. Give her a shot for pure infectious pop
Check out:
"Call My Name"
"Ghetto Baby"
"Something New" by Girls Aloud
Chris Wallace - Push Rewind
After leaving popular American band White Tie Affair front man Chris Wallace is ready to take the spotlight all on his own. His first solo effort, is pop gold; made for summer days and nights just driving around and goofing off with friends. With lead single "Remember When" (Push Rewind) getting major radio play and climbing up the charts you will definitely hear more from here so jump on the ban waggon before everyone else does!
Check out:
"Remember When" (Push Rewind)
"Hurricane"
"Timebomb" (Walk Away)
Christina Aguilera - "Lotus"
If everyone just stopped talking about her weight and listened to her music the world would be a happier place. While I too am guilty of Christina bashing (because of her awful clothing and styling) once I listened to this album I shut up...quick. No concept, no gimmicks, just great pop music. If you have let her image deter you take another look!
Check out:
"Let There Be Love"
"Just A Fool"
"Army of Me"
"Blank Page"
Ellie Goulding - Halycon
While her songs might not exactly be club friendly, her lyrics cut like a knife and add so much meaning that you just sing along anyway. With her smash hit "Lights" behind her the world is starting to want more and this 17 track album delivers! There is no doubt that "Anything Can Happen" was on every one's New Years play list whether or not you prefer Fifth Harmony's X Factor version. Look out for her this year..it's the quiet ones you have to look out for.
Check out:
"Anything Can Happen"
"Only You"
"In My City"
"I Need Your Love"
The Wanted - "Battleground"
If the fluffy One Direction makes you gag, try The Wanted on for size. The rough around the edges boy band gives an edgier flare to boy band pop. The UK band is already huge overseas and certainly making a name for themselves here in the states. Their new album is slated for a February release featuring collaborations from LMAO, Pitbull and Rita Ora. Look out One Direction..
Check out:
"I Found You"
"All Time Low"
"Chasing The Sun"
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